How Counter-Parenting harms Co-Parenting

When it comes to parenting, Texas parents approach this task differently. While some utilize books, blogs, and medical professionals to guide them with any issue that might pop up, others rely on instincts. However, when it comes to parenting a child during and after divorce, many parents seek advice on making this easier for themselves and their children.

Nowadays, co-parenting is considered the ideal situation when parents decide to no longer remain married. And while it is not ideal to be around one’s ex anymore than one has to, a co-parenting situation allows for better communication and problem-solving. It also provides, for the most part, equal access to the children when it comes to parenting time.

So, what does that mean when one is co-parenting? It means developing a civil relationship for the children. But this is sometimes easier said than done. Divorce can be ugly, emotions can run high and ex-spouses can act spitefully. This can lead to a counter-parenting situation when parents co-parent.

Counter-parenting is when parents maintain their hate and anger deriving from the divorce. They are unable to forgive each other, and every encounter with an ex reminds him or her of the hate they have for them. This could cause some acts of revenge and even working against each other. In other words, counter parenting is not conducive for a co-parenting situation, making it difficult for everyone involved.

Divorce is a difficult and unpleasant event to go, making it difficult to cope with the issues and disputes that arose during it. However, when these divorce problems impact a child custody arrangement, it is important to understand one’s options. Parents have the ability to assert their rights to modify or enforce a current order.

Source:, “Are You Co-parenting Or Counter-Parenting? Get It Right For Your Kids!” Audrey Cade, Dec. 9, 2017

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