If you are a parent who is on the verge of divorce, your relationship with your soon-to-be ex-spouse is likely quite contentious at present. And if there are serious disputes as you proceed through the divorce process, it is possible that your animosity could increase.
However, it is important to remember that this person with whom you are having so much trouble is also your child’s other parent. And if the two of you are sharing custody of your child, it’s best to find a way to work together.
It can be all too easy to allow personal pain and frustration to permeate your life. You are certainly entitled to your feelings, but you also want to prevent the emotional turmoil you are experiencing from having a negative effect on your child.
It is best to try to shield your child from your marital conflicts. Research demonstrates that a child who is subjected to adult issues can experience feelings of insecurity and helplessness which can undermine his or her confidence. Therefore, you want to avoid speaking derogatorily about your ex in front of your child.
A divorce can be difficult for all who are involved, and it is in your children’s best interests if they remain clear of the fray.
So, when you are negotiating terms of child custody, child support or any other hot button issue, you may want to have an experienced attorney act as your representative. An attorney can advocate for the terms you believe are fair while helping to keep you from becoming enmeshed in conflict. As a result, it will be easier to table your emotional stress when you are with your children.